Forgive and forget??!!

You told me to forgive and forget.I don't see any difficulties in it.But why can't you forgive her.If you have forgiven her, why you ignore her.Being ignored or unseen is more hurtful than being scold.You have hurted the person deeply yet you acted as if you are a innocent.Don't you feel sorry for her, feelguilty of being so mean to her, and outwardly you say that you have forgive and forget her.Then, why do you ignore her at the first place??There is proverb I have acknowledged for many years.I want to present this proverb to you.Do not be like crab teaching its son how to walk correctly.